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Am I Too Demanding?
By NaseebSupport
About User: Male - 29 - Nevada
Question:
I have been married for six months and I did not know my wife long before that. We met through mutual arrangement by our families and agreed to get married after talking to her for only 2 months. And before all you guys and gals start hammering me, I want to clarify that the intention of sending this question is not to criticize my wife or complain. I just want some helpful suggestion which can make me deal with the problem. The thing is that after being married for some time I have realized that my wife is very immature and starts throwing tantrums whenever she wants to get things done her way. And the more I try to be reasonable with her the more edgy she gets. She is 5 years younger than I am and wants be to act her age which quite frankly is not my style. She likes to hang out with friends every day of the week, while I am more inclined towards staying at home and watching TV. Any advice on how to find the middle ground so that we can be together without being a nuisance for the other one. If you guys thing that I am being unreasonable, feel free to say so. I am not a person to take a marriage lightly and am willing to do what it takes to make our marriage work.
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JK

Good luck to you both.


As soon as she realizes your true self not being what you have portrayed all along.. she will want to 'fix you'.. and bam !! :P
So get shopping !!





whats age groups are we talking? you cant lock her up - gotta compromise but be a man!

Speak to her about what you've just said above and take it from there.
how old is she?


That being said, you have only been married six months. You did state yourself that you two did not know each other before marriage. Marriage is not the imposition of one's will on the other. It's a compromise. What you call "immature" have you thought of it only that way or have you actually talked with your life partner and discussed the matter with her?
You go on to say that " the more I try to be reasonable........ " have you thought for an instance that maybe it is actually you that is not being " reasonable " as you so eloquently put it. Remember, she made a bigger sacrifice in marrying you than you did. Every girl, be white, brown or black, has a dream of how and who she is to marry. Have you for a second thought that maybe, just maybe, her sacrifice far out weighs yours. As I stated earlier, marriage is a compromise. It's an art. You either know it and master your wife's wishes and desires or you sit and comment on stupid posts and reminiscent "just a dream".....
Dude, what did you think, she is full of life, excited and happy. Learn a thing or two before you start saying that she is " very immature ".......
You are only 29, quit acting like a terminally ill patient and go out with her and enjoy life instead of sitting at home. As I said, I learnt my lesson the hard way, now its too late, give compromise a chance and see what happens. You have been trying reason, no harm in trying compromise for a change......