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Break it Off?
By NaseebSupport
About User: 27, MALE, South Carolina
Question:
I have been engaged to a cousin of mine for the last 5 years as the engagement was arranged by our parents. At that time I was OK with the decision and did not object. However my cousin lives in Pakistan and I haven't met her since the last 2 yrs. Last year I met someone who shares the same interests as me and is highly compatible with me. Lately I have been thinking of proposing to her and calling my previous engagement off but I am not sure if she would say yes. On the other hand, I'm pretty sure my parents will never speak to me again if I break it off with my cousin. I am confused as to what should be done since my marriage is scheduled for this June, for which we have to go to Pakistan. I have serious doubts that my cousin will be able to adjust here. I'll be honest and tell you guys that I do not love any of the women as yet, but the woman I met a year ago is very special to me and I am sure I ll be happier with her. But how to break the news to my parents and what to say to my fiancé? Any suggestions?
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What the girl in the US (Miss A) says is of no real relevance to your decision
Good luck.



Now you arent in love with either of them. And you are nto sure the other person will say yes to your proposal either. But it is just your assumption that should they say yes, it may be good for you.
Life is beautiful when you can sleep a night without guilt. It is beautiful when you live life righteously with morals and strong principles. This is your fiance had to do the same thing to you? What will your state of mind and emotional condition be? Know that it will be at least 10 times worse for her in Pakistan to cope with this refusal. Do good and the right thing and you shall reap the same. Hurt and let down your honor or go back on your commitments, you shall receive the same eventually in life.
Think of what is the right thing to do? And make the choice. And once you do make a choice, be man enough to stand by it regardless of what happens.
Az Hazaaran Kaaba e- ek dil behetaraz
Kabaa guzargaha khaleel e akbaraz
Dil guzargaha jaleel e aakbaraz
Meaning:
A heart is better than a 1000 kabaas
Kabaa is a house built for God by the greatest prophet
Heart is the house build for God by the greated God himself