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Is It a Dead End Relationship?By NaseebSupport
About User: 29, FEMALE, CALIFORNIA
I've been on and off with a guy for almost two years. He's a Christian. We met through mutual friends and had an instant connection but things got steamier overtime. I didn't want to be too emotionally involved with him so I told him we had to part ways. He would still check up on me every now and then. It's been a few months since we've been seeing each other again. We are not in a relationship because of our faiths. He asked me to convert, I'm liberal in my ways but I carry Islam close to my heart. So I explained it to him. He feels strong about his faith as well. Neither of us is willing to give up our faiths. Every time we call it quits and no more seeing each other, it doesn't work.
Every time we go out we have a great time together. I don't feel that way with any other man. I know of a lot of women who also fancy him. He can be a womanizer at times which I don't feel comfortable about but I also understand he's single so it's okay for him meet other women. Because we both understand we can't be together, we've both been dating and meeting other people.
His parents are on his case to get married. Every time I see him, he brings it up. It's difficult to picture him being married to another woman. We don't end up in a pleasant situation towards the end of every discussion. According to him, he's looking for another me in Christian faith but he doesn't like the girls or is not attracted to them. I feel I've missed out on some great men in the past and am still wasting my time because I have strong feelings for him.
He took me out for Christmas Eve. When I inquired if he cares about me, his answer was it means something if he's out with me on Christmas Eve. He was supposed to spend time with family and they arranged a dinner. Instead, he chose to take me out to dinner.
I don’t know what to do or how to get over him and vice versa. I've tried very hard to cut him off but he keeps coming back. Is there any way to make this work or put an end to this for good? Most of you will probably criticize me but to be really honest I've been shattered by this situation. Before you respond please, put yourselves in my shoes and tell me what would you do?
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