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Tell the truth?

By NaseebSupport
 
 

About User: Female -31 - Chicago

Question:
I was married in an early age but since we failed to get along at all I got a divorce after 5 years. A year after the divorce I started thinking about finding someone special to spend my life with. However as soon as the men I liked found out about my divorce, they broke it off and never looked back. This happened to me thrice so I decided not to tell about my divorce to any man that I like in the future. I met a guy on Naseeb and now things are getting serious as he has proposed to me. I really love him but I am fearful that telling him about my divorce will make him run away. Should I tell him now, or try to hide the fact for as long as possible?

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   Comments: 22     Raters: 2     December 8, 2010 at 6:21am         
 

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fat_cat (December 9, 2010 at 2:05am)
Tell him. You never know, he might have a few kids rolled up his sleeve as well.
 
G0T50NIT (December 9, 2010 at 12:27am)
ya but western women actually like the men they marry. i cant say the same for desi girls.
 
G0T50NIT (December 8, 2010 at 10:33pm)
how am i wrong happy lady? you desi people are no different from each other. muslim and hindu alike. you both practice the same frickin caste system, your pagan hindu ancestors did centuries before their conversion to islam. heck there is even a category for it on your naseeb profile! please list your caste so the poor lil desi girl doesnt 'marry down'. so how am i 'wrong' happy lady?

dyrm, first off you have a nice benefit of being a fob. why dont you just go import a bride from your country? i mean to people in india and pakistan we are millionaires. for most of them they would kill for the lifestyle we live in. i mean look at the things we take for granted, high speed internet at our finger tips - right in our own homes! no need to stand and sit in some internet cafe, hey we dont even have them in america! and thats the point i was trying to make, every desi girl comes with a price tag. some come with a lower one, some come with a higher one, usualy over priced. they make all kinds of excuses to justify it. so ya there is hope, if you are not all about caste and class, if she looks good, who cares if she is from a working class family? i dont.

GOTFIVEONIT
 
JABD (December 8, 2010 at 10:14pm)
honesty is the best policy :) ... andaz apna apna
 
hpyldy (December 8, 2010 at 9:47pm)
You're smart enough to follow the successful examples of others, I think....Appreciate your attempt to get it though...summarized nicely...I would say you've summed him up...and I would venture to guess your answer is: NO...no one has any hope whatsoever. The world is doomed for stand up guys (which seems to be all guys if I get the argument right...don't matter if it's a cheater...an abuser...a felon...whatever) by stuck up money thirsty uncaring women (again...seems to be the universal trait of all women...Yep...a hopeless journey....we should all just give up now! :) -hpy ldy
 
hpyldy (December 8, 2010 at 8:59pm)
DYRM...now you're taking advice from him!? Don't be hopeless friend! -hpy ldy :)
 
G0T50NIT (December 8, 2010 at 3:54pm)
thats why all these girls you see on this yuppie website are on here, do you see working class girls on this website? no you dont, aside from a few elementary school teachers. poor girls dont have trouble getting married, it seems to be a problem that afflicts the rich and upper middle class. how ironic.
 
G0T50NIT (December 8, 2010 at 3:52pm)
how many times have i said this. we buy our wives, its as simple as that. there is no frickin 'love' junk in a rishta. a girl marrys up. not all desi girls are rich in america, many come from working class families. middle class girls in the suburbs, all want some wealthy millionaire, or some guy earning six figures a year, why because they marry up and thats it. we buy our wives, nothing less, nothing more.
 
G0T50NIT (December 8, 2010 at 3:25pm)
and how many desi girls have come on naseeb crying about how some guy screwed her and dumped her? this is a perfect reason why. this is a reason why so many parents tell thier son's dont marry girls from here. if they can divorce that easily, for no reason at all, then they are not worth marrying, hell they shouldnt even be married. and dont give me that women's rights junk dyrm, you are a truly dumb fob who knows nothing about america. do you want to hand over half of your assets, your house, your old used bmw? how about those golf clubs you seem to love so much? cuz thats what a divorce costs a man in this country!
 
G0T50NIT (December 8, 2010 at 3:22pm)
no thanks. someone who cant try and work things out, and just gets divorced that easily is not for me. you can have her and roll the dice with her dyrm.
 
ziryab (December 8, 2010 at 2:08pm)
I sincerely doubt the intelligence of this person, as the answer is pretty much obvious

it is but sad reality that diovorced women , esp with child(ren), have a pretty hard time getting remarried
 
G0T50NIT (December 8, 2010 at 10:38am)
i meant people i know in the community, not your stupid lil website here
 
force_of_nature (December 8, 2010 at 10:34am)
did someone delete my previous comment?? :-s
 
hpyldy (December 8, 2010 at 10:21am)
I'm not so sure people wonder why you're still single! -hpy ldy
 
G0T50NIT (December 8, 2010 at 10:18am)
and people wonder why im still single? this is a perfect example why.

i have said it soo many, women are usually the ones to file for divorce - especially the spoiled abcd desi girl brat.

now these same chics have the hardest time getting re-married, wah wah what do you expect?

GOTFIVEONIT
 
hpyldy (December 8, 2010 at 8:25am)
Agreed with CB. You've already been dishonest to this point...and if a man has an issue with you because you've been divorced, then he certainly isn't someone you should be spending your life with ...You should be looking to live a lifetime with your spouse, not "until we can't stand each other any more." If you're looking at it from that perspective, it's rather amazing that you would consider hiding this from him.

Good luck,
hpy ldy
 
force_of_nature (December 8, 2010 at 8:22am)
WOS what the hell yaar...lecture comment or what :-p lol
 
sajju4u (December 8, 2010 at 8:20am)
always tell the truth never hide it
 
atharlive (December 8, 2010 at 7:36am)
i think Honesty is the best thing and before starting any relation know each other past is good for your future life. if u tell the truth and other one dont talk u any more thats mean he/she dont love u really.
 
force_of_nature (December 8, 2010 at 7:20am)
i gotta agree with CB's comment....tell the guy before things get too far.