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Why people run away from marriageBy loveydovey786
This is a huge yet disappointing fact about marriage, that after marriage the passionate aspects about marriage become just nothing but a chore. The girl or lady that yesterday learned to cook for her future hubby , once married she considers it a chore, and the man who was passionate about impressing the lady with a bunch a flowers , later brings these flowers just for the sake of just continuing with how he started off , just to prevent his wife from saying your not the same man I married , or you have changed ... even to avoid his wife from thinking , that he has an affair with someone else......I could still remember how things were in my side, before marriage, I recollect how I just struggled to find a righteous partner. I used to ask myself just why aren't people serious about marriage ? The fact of the matter is marriage takes away the actual fun of things ...marriage is passionate to the part where your in communication with someone , and just until the first few days of marriage, honey moon over , passionate aspect of marriage too is over. If you have already had a honey moon, with someone before marriage then I guess your passionate side of getting married is just a day before your nikah.
However things could seem better or the passion could continue if they're are no side pumps , which I call in laws..... The in laws work like a bone in burger, nobody ever even gives or spares an hour in the tv lounge for the couple to spend, where there is nobody else present , most of the time the couple stay in their room only to maintain their privacy. This is the basic and supposed to be tolerable , when in fact perhaps not that tolerable either as one is just room bound, as I am not the sort of person who likes much racket in the lounge area.
However if in the room bound situation , the in laws are of foal nature ... You come across a sister in law or mother in law jealous of you or your presence, the marriage then starts to be a burden.
Later these situations just takes away the spirit , or just is the beginning of the spirt fade out. People are aware of these basic yet common things that just take away the excitement of being in a live in relationship. No wonder why people just don't want to marry , not that they don't want to settle, but rather they know of this fading out situation which doesn't happen in short lived relationships , or happen due to a traditional relationship caused by just society or religious needs.
People don't want to waste or consume their one and only life in these traditions. ,but rather make the most if their youth, living their passions to the fullest , and not compromise in sacrificing their needs for traditions...
Which is why marriage isn't people cup of tea.