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The city of Bukhara (now in Islamic Uzbekistan) was located at that time in one of the greatest countries beyond the Transoxus (now Turkistan). Schools of knowledge where people could learn Arabic, the Qur?an, history, and Fiqh (Islamic jurisprudence) were spread throughout the city. The young boy, Muhammad Ibn Ismaa?eel Al-Bukhari, may Allah upon him, then set out to quench his thirst for knowledge from these sweet springs. Early in his life, he showed signs of intelligence that surprised everyone around him.
He had a sharp mind, an attentive heart, an amazing memory, and an incredible ability to memorise. Before he was 10, he had memorised the whole Qur?an, mastered the Arabic language, covered much of the Fiqh, and memorised many Prophetic narrations. His pious good mother always encouraged her son and prepared a suitable atmosphere for him to acquire knowledge. When Al-Bukhari, may Allah have mercy on him, finished his studies in the small schools, his wise mother thought to send him to the well-known study circles in Bukhaaraa, Samarqand, Bekend, Marw, and Nesabor. He became famous among the scholars to the point that he used to argue with his professors and even corrected them sometimes!!
The success and physiognomy of Al-Bukhari, may Allah have mercy on him, didn?t end there. His shaykh and teacher Muhammad Ibn Salaam Al-Bekandy, may Allah have mercy on him, the scholar of Buhaaraa and the scholar of Prophetic narrations across the Transoxus (now Turkistan), used to ask him to revise some of his books and corrected any mistakes he found. Scholars used to wonder in astonishment: ?Who was that boy who edits the books of his professor?!?
Imaam Bekandi, may Allah have mercy on him, used to say proudly about his clever student: ?This boy is unique of his kind.?
On many occasions Imaam Bekandi, may Allah have mercy on him, talked to his colleagues about his student, Al-Bukhari, may Allah have mercy on him, who memorised seventy thousand Prophetic narrations by heart. In addition to this, he never reported a narration of the companions, may Allah be pleased with them, or the generation following them unless he knew when and where they were born, as well as where they lived and died!
The years passed and Muhammad Ibn Ismaa?eel, may Allah be pleased with him, reached the age of 16 years. He felt a great need to go and seek knowledge in every corner of the world to satisfy his thirst for knowledge. He headed to Makkah, accompanied by his mother and elder brother, Ahmad, in 210 AH to perform Hajj (pilgrimage) and seek more knowledge. After the pilgrimage, his mother and brother Ahmad returned to Bukhara while he stayed in Makkah to move between its domes of knowledge: East, and west; North and South. Before the end of two years in this sacred city, he started writing his book The Issues of the companions, may Allah be pleased with them, and their Followers which marked the beginning of his renowned books.
* Al-Bukhari always loved to visit Madinah. Among the fruits of his visits to that blessed place was writing his book: ?The Big Book of History? which is considered the first book that comprises the names of the narrators of Prophetic narrations and the details of their lives. From that wonderful sacred spot, Al-Bukhari, may Allah have mercy on him, set out on a relentless endeavor to visit all the Islamic territories out of his love for compiling the Prophetic narrations.
He travelled to Hijaaz (Saudi Arabia), Levant (Syria, Jordan, Palestine and Lebanon), Egypt, and Khurasaan (a vast area between north east Iran, southern Russia, and western Afghanistan). He visited Basrah and settled for some time in Baghdad which was the capital of the Abbasid state at that time. He greatly benefited from these journeys seeking knowledge. He had the pleasure of meeting most the narrators of Prophetic narrations at that time, sat with them, listened to the narrations, and memorised whatever knowledge they had.
One night, Al-Bukhari had a strange dream that later had a great impact on his life. He saw himself standing before the Prophet (SAW) holding a palm-leaf fan in his hand with which he pushed all evil away from the Prophet, sallallaahu ?alaihi wa sallam. He was so confused and surprised that he went to his scholars, may Allah have mercy on them, asking them to interpret his dream. They said happily: ?You will clear the lies and false claims away from the Prophet (SAW).? Al-Bukhari then remembered his teacher, shaykh Is-Haaq Ibn Raahawayh, the prominent scholar of Khurasaan, when he told his students once: ?It would be great if you can compile a concise and brief book containing the authentic narrations of the Prophet, sallallaahu ?alaihi wa sallam.?
These words echoed in Al-Bukhari?s heart and he remembered that dream which was always in his mind since he started learning the Prophetic narrations. Thereupon, he immediately made an intention to actively and seriously pursue this mission and started to strive in his long journey of writing this great book in 217 AH when he was twenty three.
Because of that dream, Al-Bukhari travelled thousands of miles moving from one Islamic territory to another, undergoing all sorts of difficulties, hardships, and weariness, sometimes to obtain only one narration of the Prophet, sallallaahu ?alaihi wa sallam. He sometimes even had to eat grass to satisfy his extreme hunger after he had spent all his money. Even the few hours of night in which he snatched short naps to rest a while, were not so resting for him, as he used to wake up fifteen to twenty times a night to lit his lamp and sit to classify the narrations he had collected.
Al-Bukhari made a pact with himself that he wouldn?t include a narration from any narrator until he had personally met him and listened to the narration with his own ears. He never accepted narrations except from the ones who were known for being honest, diligent, accurate, fearing Allah, and having a sharp memory. After this process, he would have a ritual bath; pray two Rak?as and then include only the narration that had met all these conditions in his book.
After 16 years of continuous effort and hard work, Al-Bukhari, may Allah have mercy on him, finished his valuable book that comprised around 7,000 authentic narrations which he selected from amongst 600,000 authentic and non-authentic narrations. He overlooked many authentic narrations so that his book wouldn?t be too long. He chose to name the book ?The Authentic Book Encompassing a Brief Authentic Narrations of the Prophet (SAW),his Tradition and Life? to become the title of the most authentic book after the Qur?an. The book is known as ?Saheeh Al-Bukhari? (The authentic narrations reported by Al-Bukhari, may Allah have mercy on him).
This book became well known and it gave him a high rank that someone like him truly deserved to achieve. He, may Allah be pleased with him, had a vast knowledge, great manners, a tolerant nature, dignity, and an untainted tongue. He cared so little for this life, he had deep faith, and had Allah?s consciousness at all times. After Imaam Al-Bukhari, may Allah have mercy on him, became famous throughout the world, thousands of scholars came to him as students of the leader in memorization of authentic narrations until the number of people who attended his study circles in Baghdad reached 20,000. Among the most remarkable figures of his students were Imaams At-Tirmithi, An-Nasaa?ee, Muslim and others, may Allah have mercy on them.
In 250 AH, Al-Bukhari, may Allah have mercy on him, left to Nisabor, a city in Khurasaan and stayed there for a while teaching the people. Then he decided to return to his dear city, Bukhara, and when he did the people rushed to welcome him in a great celebration in which huge tents were pitched and decorations were hung. They threw flowers and golden and silver coins on the Imaam upon his arrival into the city. There was an overwhelming atmosphere of happiness that prevailed throughout all Bukhara. Allah Willed, out of mercy to the Imaam, that Al-Bukhari, may Allah have mercy on him, would only meet his Lord after peace and happiness had found their way into his heart again.
One day, the people of Samarqand sent a message for him asking him to come. He agreed and packed with great joy. When he started walking towards his animal he said: ?Take me back, I have become weak and very ill?. When they took him back to his house, he said some supplications then he laid on his bed sweating a lot, then his pure soul ascended to its Creator. His death, may Allah have mercy on him, was on a Friday night, the beginning of the month of Shawwaal, 256 AH (870 AD). He was 62 years old when he died. He was buried in the village of Khartank which is now known as ?Khawaajah Saaheb?. May Allah have mercy upon the great Imaam. Ameen
QUESTION: What are the virtues of the month of Muharram?
An ANSWER is provided by IOL Shari`ah Researchers
A Muslim is to be keen to get closer to Allah and draw nearer to Him all the time. Such keenness gains more weight and significance during blessed occasions and times. One of these occasions in which a Muslim should exert more effort and show more keenness is the month of Muharram.
To shed more light on the significance of worship in this blessed month we would like to cite for you the following:
''Indeed, the sacred month of Muharram is a blessed and important month. It is the first month of the Hijri calendar and is one of the four sacred months concerning which Allah says,(Verily, the number of months with Allah is twelve months (in a year), so it was ordained by Allah on the Day when He created the heavens and the earth; of them, four are sacred. That is the right religion, so wrong not yourselves therein)''. (At-Tawbah 9: 36)
Abu Bakr (may Allah be pleased with him) reported that the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said: "Time has come back to its original state which it had when Allah created the Heavens and the Earth; the year is twelve months, four of which are sacred. Three of them are in succession: Dhul-Qa`da, Dhul-Hijja and Al-Muharram, and (the fourth being) Rajab Mudar (named after the tribe of Mudar as they used to respect this month) which stands between Jumad (ath-Thani) and Sha`ban."
Muharram is called so because it is a sacred (muharram) month and to confirm its sanctity Allah Almighty says, (so wrong not yourselves therein), which means do not wrong yourselves in these sacred months, because sin in these months is worse than in other months.
The Virtue of Observing More Voluntary Fasting during Muharram:
Explaining the virtue of fasting on the 9th and the 10th of Muharram, Dr. Muzammil H. Siddiqi, former President of the Islamic Society of North America, states:
''It is the Sunnah of the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) to fast on the 9th and 10th of Muharram.
The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) used to fast on the day of `Ashura'. When he came to Madinah, he found out that the Jews of Madinah were also fasting on this day remembering Prophet Musa (peace and blessings be upon him).
The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) admired this tradition and said to the Jews, "I am closer to Musa than you are." He fasted and he also told his Companions to fast on this day.
Later, before the end of his life, the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) told Muslims to add the 9th day also. Thus, it is recommended to fast on both the 9th and 10th of Muharram.''
It is noted that The Prophet (SAW) fasted on the day of ?Aashoora and encouraged that his companions fast on that day. The sahaabah (his companions) said, ?Messenger of Allah, it is a day which the Jews and Christians hold in high esteem.? Thereupon the Messenger of Allah said, ??When the next year comes, inshaa ?Allah, we would fast on the 9th (i.e. the ninth as well as the 10th in order to differ from the disbelievers)''.
? But the Messenger of Allah died before the advent of that next year. Therefore we can fast that day and one day before it (the 9th), following the Prophet?s Sunnah.
Muslims also benefit from the story of Prophet Moosa (pbuh) by learning that the Sunnah of the Prophets is to THANK and PRAISE Allah (SWT) in times of peace and when they gain victory over their enemies. Moosa fasted on the 10th, the day on which Allah made his followers victorious over Pharaoh; and this is another sign that the truth will always defeat falsehood.
The Prophet fasted on this day thanking Allah for the victory of the people of the truth over the people of falsehood.
The victory in that time was for Moosa, but the Sunnah of the prophets is one. This is the jihaad against the disbelievers - to make the word of Allah the highest on earth. Victory always comes from Allah and victory is a ni?mah (bounty) from Allah for which we must thank Allah (SWT) by being obedient to Him.
Unfortunately, nowadays, some (Muslims) people create bid?ah (innovation in the deen) and deviant slogans and even hold demonstrations. Islam forbidds this.
Allah (SWT) know best.
And when Allah Almighty referred to the commission of our beloved Prophet (saw) He said (what means): ?And We have not sent you, , except as a mercy to the worlds.? .
As Muslims we should take lessons from what Allah (SAT) has told us in the Qur?an regarding the Prophets and Messengers of Allah and the previous nations.
Allah said (which means):
?Indeed in their stories, there is a lesson for men of understanding. It (the Qur?an) is not a forged statement, but a confirmation of Allah?s existing books (the Torah, the Injeel, and other Scriptures of Allah), a detailed explanation of everything, and a guide and a mercy for the people who believe.? (Yusuf 12: 111)
And among the stories that Allah has narrated to us in His Book is what happened in Allah?s month:
(1) the sacred month of Muharram,
(2) and that is the story of Prophet Moosa and Pharaoh the tyrant of Egypt, in the Qur?an, Allah (SAT) tells us this story, which means:
?We recite to you some of the news of Moosa and Pharaoh in truth, for a people who believe (i.e. those who believe (ie those who believe in this Qur?an and in the Oneness of Allah). Verily, Pharaoh exalted himself in the land and made its people sects, weakening (oppressing) a group (Bani Israa?eel) among them, killing their sons and letting their females live. Verily, he was of the mufsidoon (those who commit great sins and crimes, oppressors and tyrants). And We wished to do a favour for those who were weak (and oppressed) in the land, and to make them rulers and to make them the inheritors, and rulers and to make them the inheritors, and to establish them in the land, and We let Pharaoh and Haamaan (a minister of Pharaoh) and their hosts receive from them that which they feared.
? (Al-Qasas 28:3-6)
Pharaoh dominated the nation of Israa?eel and enslaved them, killing their newborn sons but letting their females alive. The reason Pharaoh committed this criminal act was the fear of the truth coming out from one of those newborn males. The nation of Israa?eel used to know, according to what came to them from Prophet Ibraheem, that someone from his lineage would destroy the king of Egypt. These glad tidings were famous among the nation of Israa?eel; and the news of it was made known to Pharaoh. Pharaoh ordered his soldiers to kill all newborn boys of the nation of Israa?eel; on order to secure himself from destruction.
However, all of the precautions that he made were not enough to protect him from what Allah wanted, which was for this newborn boy to be raised in the house of Pharaoh. The will of Allah cannot be stopped by any precautions and His ability conquers anything. So Allah (SWT) chose for the Prophet Moosa to be born safely, to be saved from being killed, and also to be raised in Pharaoh?s own home under the protection of Allah until he was an adult.
Later Moosa accidentally killed a person from Pharaoh?s people. Moosa was afraid that he would be captured and be killed for this, so he fled to the land of Madyan and abided there for some time. He married there and then returned to Egypt.
On the way back Allah (SWT) talked to him (by wahy) revelation and told him he was a prophet and the Messenger to Pharaoh. Allah told him many signs by which he will be known as the Prophet of Allah and they would show that he was a true prophet.
Moosa went to Pharaoh and showed him the signs of Allah but Pharaoh was arrogant and stubborn.
?Has there come to you the story of Moosa? When his Lord called him in the Valley of Tuwaa. ?Go to Pharaoh, verily he has transgressed all bounds (in crimes, sins, polytheism and disbelief). And say to hi, ?Would you purify yourself (from the sin of disbelief and by becoming a believer). And that I guide you to your Lord, so you should fear him?? Then (Moosa) showed him the great signs (miracles). But (Pharaoh) belied and disobeyed; then he turned his back, striving hard against (Allah). Then he gathered his people and cried aloud, saying, ?I am you lord, most high.?
??(An-Naazi?aat 79: 15-24)
Pharaoh claimed that the signs Moosa brought were only magic and that he had magic that would overtake the magic of Moosa. So Pharaoh gathered magicians from his kingdom and they presented their magic, and Moosa presented what he had from the signs, which Allah had given him.
?Thus truth was confirmed, and all that they did was made of no effect. So they were defeated there and then, and were returned disgraced. And the sorcerers fell down prostrate. They said, ?We believe in the Lord of the ?Aalameen (i.e. all that exists), the Lord of Moosa and Haaroon (Aaron).?? (Al-A?araf 7: 118-122)
At that time Pharaoh decided to try a different plan - fear, force and retaliation. Allah told Moosa to get every believer out of Egypt and direct them to where Allah would tell him. Pharaoh gathered his army and forces, which were around one million soldiers according to the seerah, and he chased Moosa and his people, hoping to destroy them completely. Moosa ended up at the sea with Pharaoh and his army behind him. The believers were afraid because the sea was in front of them and the enemy was behind them.
?And when the two hosts saw each other, the people of Moosa, said, ?We are sure to be overtaken. (Moosa) said, ?Nay, verily! With me is my Lord and He will guide me!?? (Ash-Shu?araa 26: 61-62)
Whoever is close to Allah, Allah will never let him down or leave him on his own. Allah ordered Moosa to strike the sea with his staff. Moosa did so and the sea opened up for them to cross:
?And indeed We inspired Moosa (saying): ?Travel by night with ?Ibaadi (My slaves) and strike a dry path for them in the sea, fearing neither to be overtaken (by Pharaoh) nor being afraid (of drowning).? (Taaha 20:77)
Moosa walked across the path that opened in the sea and the last of his people left the sea and every soldier of Pharaoh?s army was inside the path. At this time Allah ordered the sea to collapse upon them, drowning Pharaoh and his army.
That was the victory of the truth over falsehood. The promise of Allah was true - He made the people of Moosa victorious over Pharaoh and his army. From this story we see how the truth is victorious, regardless of the size or seeming power of falsehood. Falsehood has its own limited time, but the truth is always victorious. This story should enrich the hearts of the believers and make them steadfast in the face of their enemies, regardless of size or seeming power of their enemies.
The believer should also benefit from this story by understanding that the people of falsehood claim that they are on the right path and are calling people to the truth. In fact, the opposite is true-they rely on lies and deception.
Pharaoh said to his people,
?I guide you only to the path of right policy!? (Ghaafir 40:29)
But he was lying. From this story we also see that whoever knows the truth and truly believes in it will not lose, regardless of what he or she endures of torment, torture or even death. An example is of the magicians. When they knew the truth, they believed in Allah and in the message of Moosa.
?So the magicians fell down prostrate. They said, ?We believe in the Lord of Haaroon and Moosa.?? (Taaha 20:70).
Pharaoh threatened to crucify them, but they were strong in their belief and refused to return to disbelief after believing.
Allah said (which means): ?Pharaoh said, ?Believe you in him (Moosa) before I give you permission? Verily! He is your chief who taught you magic. So surely I will cut off your hands and feet on opposite sides, and I will surely crucify you on the trunks of palm-trees, and you shall; know which of us, (I, Pharaoh) or the Lord of Moosa (Allah) can give the severe and more lasting torment.?
They said, ?We prefer you not over the clear signs that have come to us, and to Him (Allah) who created us. So decree whatever you desire to decree, for you can only decree (regarding) this life of the world.?
?Verily! We have believed in our Lord, that He may forgive us our faults, and the magic to which you did compel us. And Allah is better (as regards in comparison to your punishment).?
Verily! Whoever comes to his Lord as a mujrim (criminal, sinner, polytheist, disbeliever in the oneness of Allah and in His messengers) then surely, for him is Hell, therein he will neither die nor live.
But whoever comes to Him (Allah) as a believer (in the oneness of Allah) and has done righteous deeds, for such are the high ranks (in the Hereafter).? (Taaha 20:71-75)
We also derived from this story the lesson that falsehood, regardless of how big or the number of its adherents, will be defeated by the truth and the people of the truth are patient with whatever they are facing. This is an example of an arrogant tyrant with power, an army and a kingdom which he ruled, who pursued a few who had no munitions or other means (of defence), but Allah was with them and they had the force of Imaan in their hearts. Allah gave them His victory, His guidance, His help; and in a single moment the forces of falsehood were destroyed. Pharaoh?s forces were destroyed in the sea and as Allah said (which means):
?We fling (send down ) the truth against the falsehood, so it (truth) destroys it, and behold, it (falsehood) is vanished.? (Al-Anbiyaa 21: 18)
We also learn that Allah tests the prophets and the believers, and the tests are sometimes very difficult, but in the end, victory is for the prophets and the believers. Allah is with the prophets and the believers in victory and guidance.
Allah says (which means):
?Truly, Allah is with those who fear him, keep their duty unto Him, and those who are Muhsinoon (doers of good, those who perform good deeds solely for the sake of Allah and in accordance with the Sunnah of the Prophet).? (An-Nahl 16: 128)
Muslims should consider these lessons and not follow the ways of those who were disobedient to Allah; but rather to obey the Prophet and follow his guidance as Allah told us, which means,
?Indeed in the Messenger of Allah (Muhammad) you have a good example to follow for him who hopes in (the meeting with) Allah and the Last Day and remembers Allah much.? (Al-Ahzaab 33: 21)
This great event - the victory Allah gave Moosa and the believers over Pharaoh and his army - occurred on the 10th of the sacred month of Moharram and the day is called Yaumul Aashoorah (the day of ?Aashoorah). It is a day that has great merit. Prophet Moosa fasted on that day and ordered the people to fast that day.
The sacred months are four:
Plse read Al Qur?an, chapter 9: At-Tawbah
~ At Taubah 9:3 '' And a declaration from All?h and His Messenger to mankind on the greatest day (the 10th of Dhul-Hijjah - the 12th month of Isl?mic calendar) that All?h is free from (all) obligations to the Mushrik?n (see V.2:105) and so is His Messenger. So if you (Mushrik?n) repent, it is better for you, but if you turn away, then know that you cannot escape (from the Punishment of) All?h. And give tidings (O Muhammad SAW) of a painful torment to those who disbelieve.''
~ At-Tawbah 9:5 ''Then when the Sacred Months (the Ist, 7th, 11th, and 12th months of the Isl?mic calendar) have passed, then kill the Mushrik?n (see V.2:105) wherever you find them, and capture them and besiege them, and prepare for them each and every ambush. But if they repent and perform As-Sal?t (Iq?mat-as-Sal?t), and give Zak?t, then leave their way free. Verily, All?h is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful.''
~ At-Tawbah 9: 36
''Verily, the number of months with All?h is twelve months (in a year), so was it ordained by All?h on the Day when He created the heavens and the earth; of them four are Sacred, (i.e. the 1st, the 7th, the 11th and the 12th months of the Isl?mic calendar). That is the right religion, so wrong not yourselves therein, and fight against the Mushrik?n (polytheists, pagans, idolaters, disbelievers in the Oneness of All?h) collectively, as they fight against you collectively. But know that All?h is with those who are Al-Muttaq?n (the pious - see V.2:2)''.
~ At Taubah 9:37
''The postponing (of a Sacred Month) is indeed an addition to disbelief: thereby the disbelievers are led astray, for they make it lawful one year and forbid it another year in order to adjust the number of months forbidden by All?h, and make such forbidden ones lawful. The evil of their deeds seems pleasing to them. And All?h guides not the people, who disbelieve''.
The beginning of a New Islamic Year, which was initiated after the Hijrah, or emigration, of the Prophet (SAW) and which marked the formation of the first Muslim nation within an independent Islamic territory under the rule of Muslims.
The Muslims had no formal annual calendar until the caliphate of ?Umar bin al-Khattab. In the third or fourth year of his caliphate, ?Umar, may Allah be pleased with him, received a message from Abu Moosaa al-Ash?ari, may Allah be pleased with him, who suggested that their future correspondence be confirmed with the appropriate date.
We have just ushered in the new Hijri year. Allah said that which translates as: ?Indeed, the number of months with Allah is twelve months in the register of Allah the day He created the heavens and the earth; of these, four are sacred. That is the correct religion , so do not wrong yourselves during them...? (At-Tawbah: 36).
Some Muslims have chosen to use the Gregorian Calendar instead of the Hijri calendar. The Gregorian Calendar has no relation with Islam and although it has been in existence for longer than that of the Hijri Calendar, that is no excuse for the Muslims to adopt it.
It is well known that the companions of the Prophet (SAW) would hate that any Muslim would use the Roman or Persian Calendar.
These are the months that Allah (SAT) has appointed for the whole of mankind. He has said that which translates as: ?They ask you , about the new moons. Say ?They are measurements of time for the people and for Haj (pilgrimage].? (Al-Baqarah: 189).
Therefore, we know that these months, based on the lunar calendar, were appointed for all of mankind and not just for the Arabs. This is due to the fact that the lunar months can very easily be detected and calculated by the sighting of the crescent-moon, which marks the end of the month and the beginning of a new one.
This is not the case with the Gregorian Calendar, which does not rely on any logical or visible signs as regards its calculation of months; rather, each month in this calendar ranges between twenty-eight and thirty-one days without a single logical reason for such variation. Recently some plans were proposed to modify the Gregorian calendar, but Christian priests and Jewish rabbis vehemently opposed them and so the plans had to be scrapped.
When you look at how the Christian and Jewish theologians opposed the change of these imaginary months, it is because they realise the danger that such a change would introduce into their beliefs, while the scholars of the Islamic religion are silent, rather some of them actually approve of replacing the Islamic Calendar, which Allah (SAT) has appointed for all mankind, with the man-made Gregorian Calendar. When Imaam Ahmad was asked about the Persian Calendar, he showed extreme abhorrence towards it.
We are in the new Hijri year. It is not from the Sunnah to celebrate it. For the Muslims, the passage of years does not constitute a real cause of happiness; rather, what counts is the amount of time spent in obedience to Allah (SAT) during these years.
The years that have passed will be considered as successful if they were spent in obedience to Allah and miserable if they were spent in disobedience of Allah. We must bring ourselves to account, redeem ourselves from our bad deeds and duly perform our responsibilities towards our relatives, partners (wives / husbands) and children.
?...And turn to Allah in repentance, all of you, O believers, that you might succeed.? (An-Noor: 31).