Family violence, physical, verbal, emotional,sexual and financial abuse.
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What a Wife Wants: Tips for the Husband
To determine what a woman really wants in a man. It would be easy to say answer with the old standby, "Someone who is tall, educated and handsome," but we all know there's more to it than that.
A woman wants a man who will respect her - her thoughts, feelings, ideas, and emotions. When a woman says, "I feel like...", she may know deep down that how she's feeling isn't based on fact but the fact is, she's feeling it and it seems like it's real. She doesn't want a guy telling her she's crazy for feeling the way she does. She wants to know that he is hearing how she feels and wants to help her to see the truth - gently.
A woman wants a man who adores her. To adore someone conveys that you admire them; you're crazy and passionate about them. Adore your woman. Admire her qualities, her characteristics. Show her you're crazy about her.
A woman wants a man who is attentive. Being attentive can mean a lot of different things. Attentive to her needs, attentive to her words. If you really want to impress her, make her that lifelong mate, listen to her with your undivided attention. Make time for her. A woman's needs are different than a man's. While the male society thrives on having their physical needs met, ultimately it is usually the emotional needs not being met that a woman suffers from - a disconnected partner, a lazy partner, an apathetic partner. There is no faster way to disillusion her ideal relationship than to leave her emotional needs unmet hanging by a thread. Remember that old saying about needs being met elsewhere if they aren't met at home? It's not a myth.
A woman wants a man who takes care of himself. Shower. Shave. Brush your teeth. Get a haircut, or at least comb it. Wash your clothes. Flush the toilet. Make sure you use deodorant and don?t use nice perfumes. Read a good book and improve your mind. Take a walk around the block. And if you work out that will keep you fit and your woman happy.
What Is Domestic Violence?
Domestic violence is a pattern of abusive behavior, which keeps one partner in a position of power over the other partner through the use of fear, intimidation, and control. Please review the power and control wheel below to see the various ways in which domestic violence may manifest.
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Emotional abuse is consistently and persistently undermining a person?s sense of self-worth. Examples include constant criticism, belittling one?s abilities, name-calling, and damaging a partner?s relationship with the children. For more information about the different kinds of abuse, click here www.apiahf.org
Am I Being Abused? (A Checklist)
Provided by the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence
Look over the following questions. Think about how you are being treated and how you treat your partner. Remember, when one person scares, hurts or continually puts down the other person, it?s abuse.
Does your partner?
____ Embarrass or make fun of you in front of your friends or family?
____ Put down your accomplishments or goals?
____ Make you feel like you are unable to make decisions?
____ Use intimidation or threats to gain compliance?
____ Tell you that you are nothing without them?
____ Treat you roughly - grab, push, pinch, shove or hit you?
____ Call you several times a night or show up to make sure you are where you said you would be?
____ Use drugs or alcohol as an excuse for saying hurtful things or abusing you?
____ Blame you for how they feel or act?
____ Pressure you sexually for things you aren?t ready for?
____ Make you feel like there ?is no way out? of the relationship?
____ Prevent you from doing things you want?like spending time with your friends or family?
____Try to keep you from leaving after a fight or leave you somewhere after a fight to ?teach you a lesson??
____ Sometimes feel scared of how your partner will act?
____ Constantly make excuses to other people for your partner?s behavior?
____ Believe that you can help your partner change if only you changed something about yourself?
____ Try not to do anything that would cause conflict or make your partner angry?
____ Always do what your partner wants you to do instead of what you want?
____Stay with your partner because you are afraid of what your partner would do if you broke-up?
If any of these are happening in your relationship on a consistent basis, talk to someone. Without some help, the abuse will continue.
Healthy vs. Unhealthy Relationships
What Is Domestic Violence?
Domestic violence is a pattern of abusive behavior which keeps one partner in a position of power over the other partner through the use of fear, intimidation, and control. Please review the power and control wheel below to see the various ways in which domestic violence may manifest.
For more information about domestic violence within Asian American communities, please visit www.apiahf.org