DHTML Menu / JavaScript Menu Powered by Milonic
Already a member? Sign In

Village Journals help
Resonate your identity with Naseeb journals. Express your opinions, share your thoughts, post your writings and connect with like minded people through the power of expression.

CHEATING


Would you, under any circumstance, forgive your spouse/significant other for cheating on you? At the moment, my own answer to this question would be a resounding, unequivocal NO. But I wonder if our answers would be the same if we were middle-aged married people with children to look after and real love for our spouse. I suspect that my answer would still be the same, but it probably wouldn't be resounding and unequivocal.
What do you guys say? Would you kick the cheater to the curb or would you give him/her another chance.
 

Add Comments

 
Add
 

  Comments on this journal

Login to find out (August 25, 2005 at 3:24pm)
staph, sounds lie you could use a little paradigm expansion
 
Login to find out (August 25, 2005 at 2:55pm)
However, everyone is a potential cheater. Especially the ones who adamantly say OH NO I'M NOT (either in their heads or out loud). The ones who protest the most I'd watch out for. The ones who don't lie to themselves and say I could do it are the ones I'd actually trust.
 
Login to find out (August 25, 2005 at 2:53pm)
Staph, you don't know how much you spoke my thoughts. Personally that's why I figure a woman ought to be allowed to have more than one husband.

I mean (blinking innocently) if a man is allowed 4 so that HE doesn't cheat, it only stands to reason that if the woman has the higher sex drive SHE ought to be allowed 4 husbands. Right?
 
Login to find out (August 25, 2005 at 8:43am)
Ramsey, if they still loved their wife, that would be the only way. I frankly don't see it as cheating, but then it might be 'cause of entirely selfish reasons. Lol...

Either way I think when I was younger I had a different opinion when things were all black and white. I had a much different opinion of a lot of things I knew nothing about when I was younger. I wish I could go back to being that bright-eyed optimistic fool sometimes.
 
Login to find out (August 24, 2005 at 7:46am)
Interesting topic - my ex-husband to be and I got into a row last night about this very subject. I guess he thought I'm not "suffering" the loss enough or I didn't turn into a nun to mourn my ruined marriage or I don't know what else.

Personally it was over for me a long long time ago and it's such a relief that I only have a couple weeks left of this nonsense.

So much for being nice and not starting the proceedings so that he would have health insurance. This is the thanks I get for being a nice "guy."
 
Login to find out (August 24, 2005 at 7:44am)
Ramsey, I think when a woman is separated then she's as good as divorced. The only problem is that sometimes women will go back to their ex-to-be husband. Then it ends up cheating.

If that doesn't happen, and the woman/man knows for sure it's not going to, then I don't see why either should have to deny themselves when it's just a matter of a legality, not a religious act, that makes them still bound to one another.
 
Login to find out (August 24, 2005 at 12:42am)
Sorry to bring in Nastyness! from another village in this one, but i did not start it, i kept it clean and to the point, anyway apologies,

Anway... RamseyNotRich - No never cheated... have you?
 
Login to find out (August 24, 2005 at 12:05am)
And wow, 2 Khans on a Muslim networking site? I'm astounded! :P
 
Login to find out (August 24, 2005 at 12:04am)
Regarding the previous postings, I think once the conversation turns to what he/she said behind his/her back and who wants to sleep with whom, it is time to take it to a more private medium. Failure to do so wastes all of our time.
 
Login to find out (August 24, 2005 at 12:03am)
this is getting trippy
 
Login to find out (August 23, 2005 at 11:49pm)
I'm contacting a talk show as we speak!
 
Login to find out (August 23, 2005 at 11:40pm)
Those emoticons are supposed to be holding back tears, by the way.
 
Login to find out (August 23, 2005 at 11:39pm)
I always had a feeling about you too Staph! I'm so happy to have met you. :- :- :(
 
Login to find out (August 23, 2005 at 11:38pm)
I'm the right. My brother (senordeny) is the left.
 
Login to find out (August 23, 2005 at 11:28pm)
Ohhhhh . . sabilaK, does K stand for Khan?

Which of you is the left Khan boot and the right one?
 
Login to find out (August 23, 2005 at 11:27pm)
Staph, you're a Khan?!
 
Login to find out (August 23, 2005 at 11:01pm)
What is the Khan boot?

I know during the Spanish Inquisition, there was a torture device called 'the boot' or I guesss 'le boot'. :)

Screw would tighten the shoe until the foot was crushed.
 
Login to find out (August 23, 2005 at 10:57pm)
But what's this abt kicking people out? I don't think anyone's done anything to warrant the Khan boot.
 
Login to find out (August 23, 2005 at 10:56pm)
I was there for the homophobia talk and defended my gay friends. I attacked from the left.
 
Login to find out (August 23, 2005 at 10:32pm)
Sabila you will need to flip back a few pages where talk of homophobia started.