Hmm. 2 cents you mean, 1.20 rupees (in Pakistan) heh. yea ok. I guess it was a doc joke.

AB, you did mean "mum" as a metaphor which includes other people, or themselves or some unidentified flying piece of wisdom (UFW) - right?
Because if you didnt: Sometimes moms know sheet because they are dysfunctional themselves. Our answers lie within us, not with anyone. The shrinks help us bring out those answers, etc. It makes me sick to see our cultures looking at parents as ideals. As we get independent, we are as adult as they are. In many cases there are good parents, but not always. No matter what case, bad parents or good parents, we have to look within for answers, not to our mums or dads, because this is our life. We know best about ourself, not our parents.

Andrea,
I dont even know what postmodernism means - is it connected to the US Postal Service? I like UPS personally.

Well really! I think it starts with us being honest with ourselves. I got to know about Dr. Nathaniel Branden, this guy is amazing and expert on self-esteem. I'm reading a book of his and got some audio today to listen too.
We have to be honest to ourselves and one way of that is, we wear a blue shirt and ask ourselves what color shirt we're wearing. If we hear ANYTHING but some shade of Blue, you know you got Denial problems.
Another slightly different way is to wear Red shirts and so on.

Ok so just being silly.

Whats the difference between postM and objecti. ?

How do we know we get an honest answer when we ask ourselves if we're in denial? Check the weather. If its between 65F and 72F, you're probably gonna get an honest answer.

Do I ever Stopppppp. lol.

Ok I really dont know. Ummmmm.
Emotions. If we're in the habit of lying to ourselves, we frequently suppress our emotions too. One way to unlock that is regular meditation. Dr. Nathan talks about that too.

I think we have to be willing to say Yes first to:
Am I willing to find the truth about myself, no matter how uncomfortable it may be?

It is hard. One has to be willing to "work" on themselves. First they also have to be willing to accept that there CAN be a problem, and then next to accept that, there IS a problem. It involves lots and lots of reflection.

Andreea_2e

i cant see what Andreea_2e is typing

Thats right! I'm in denial that I'm in denial of being in denial! yea, I get the point now. Sorry j/k, yea I got the point. If we're in denial already, its hard to accept that we're in denial.

forget denial,acceptence or resolution...its helpful to be a little bit shameless but it will help you survive and live longer , while the world outside is having fun and you are killing yourself with guilty concious remember something, sometimes people are as guilty as us,its not fair while they enjoy & having the time of their life while you are depressing yourself with grief, go out have some some fun, go to a movie

Shamelessness shouldnt cloud Caring though

but its a good way of survival in this twisted world....

perhaps this might help inspire someone in a good way

if i am incorrect, then i hope somebody might correct me

I know i can be somewhat right or totally wrong but what i gave is just food for thought

So whats the way to prevent Denial from happening? Its hard work I think! To face what we dont like, but what may be true.

I thought acceptance was the final stage. );