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Green Grass...
We have often pondered the saying "grass is greener on the other side" and yes, sometimes it certainly is, but other times it depends on each individual.
The development where I live is an oval consisting of fifty houses so the house situated two houses down across the street is occupied by a Pakistani Pathan family that is incidentally the only other Pakistani family in the neighborhood and came into the development in part based on my dad's recommendation.
The family consists of four daughters, all of whom are married off and have children. Their dad, sadly, passed away two years back. In the house reside one of the daughters, her husband, her three small children, and her mother. The daughter is thirty-one years old, same age as me.
Recently, the daughter of the house and I ended up having a girl-talk session where she insisted a handful of times stating things like "Monazza, you are so lucky" "Enjoy your life and freedoms" etc. She said how when she got married in an arranged marriage ten years ago to her cousin who is ten years her senior, she could hardly make her own decisions, let alone know how to manage a relationship. She also mentioned that she notices each day how big the mental gap is between herself and her husband, that her children are a handful prompting her to constantly worry, and that she never has any time for herself.
I mentioned to her that "Ghazala look, grass is always greener on the other side", that here I am, surely enjoying life, the company of my family and friends, and not being answerable to anyone, but that even I crave marriage now, that I didn't become this way overnight but that the need to have a life partner and have children was something that developed within me just over the past few years. I also told her that due to so many divorces and separations taking place in our generation in every corner of the world, I would rather marry the right person in good time rather than rush into something headfirst without being completely sure. She agreed wholeheartedly and insisted that this was a wise way of thinking.
Indeed it is true that grass is always greener on the other side; however, sometimes too I think, when you crave something, you know it is your time and you want to experience the "other side" because it is time, not because you want to get a taste to see what it feels like.
The development where I live is an oval consisting of fifty houses so the house situated two houses down across the street is occupied by a Pakistani Pathan family that is incidentally the only other Pakistani family in the neighborhood and came into the development in part based on my dad's recommendation.
The family consists of four daughters, all of whom are married off and have children. Their dad, sadly, passed away two years back. In the house reside one of the daughters, her husband, her three small children, and her mother. The daughter is thirty-one years old, same age as me.
Recently, the daughter of the house and I ended up having a girl-talk session where she insisted a handful of times stating things like "Monazza, you are so lucky" "Enjoy your life and freedoms" etc. She said how when she got married in an arranged marriage ten years ago to her cousin who is ten years her senior, she could hardly make her own decisions, let alone know how to manage a relationship. She also mentioned that she notices each day how big the mental gap is between herself and her husband, that her children are a handful prompting her to constantly worry, and that she never has any time for herself.
I mentioned to her that "Ghazala look, grass is always greener on the other side", that here I am, surely enjoying life, the company of my family and friends, and not being answerable to anyone, but that even I crave marriage now, that I didn't become this way overnight but that the need to have a life partner and have children was something that developed within me just over the past few years. I also told her that due to so many divorces and separations taking place in our generation in every corner of the world, I would rather marry the right person in good time rather than rush into something headfirst without being completely sure. She agreed wholeheartedly and insisted that this was a wise way of thinking.
Indeed it is true that grass is always greener on the other side; however, sometimes too I think, when you crave something, you know it is your time and you want to experience the "other side" because it is time, not because you want to get a taste to see what it feels like.