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How do you know when someone is right???


Quite often single people ask, "how do you know if someone is right?" I know I wonder sometimes .. and often when you ask people who know they are with the right person, they will generally say something like, "well, i dont' know exactly--- but you just know."
Now my question is to all the single people out there.. Do you just know? OR is the knowing in any way dependant on a list of reasons, qualifications or whatever?
 

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Login to find out (April 8, 2006 at 9:11pm)
okay, i just joined this village so excuse the redundancy if my comment got posted again. to repeat my viewpoint, the 'right one' is someone in whose prescence you feel secure, who doesnt put you down, even subtly in the guise of 'jokes' (beware of such people...big red flags) , with whom you can just....be...who gets who you are basically
 
Login to find out (March 5, 2006 at 4:20am)
So here is what a wise man once told me .. to know if the person is right for u or not, you must spend 4 seasons with that person.

Problem these days, you can't anyone who wants to stick around for that long .. but then again, it aint such a bad thing after all ..

My 2 cents ..
 
Login to find out (February 27, 2006 at 11:53am)
LOL. That reminds me of an "interview" I had in Pakistan. This girls dad actually said "So, should we start your interview?". LOL.
 
Login to find out (February 26, 2006 at 6:31pm)
I am looking, too, and it is very tiring. I also prefer the process to be natural rather than like a job interview.....
 
Login to find out (February 26, 2006 at 1:43pm)
I think you know when someone is not right. So if you don't know that, then they must be right! :)
 
Login to find out (February 26, 2006 at 8:56am)
lolz - just remember that all these smug girls getting wed are compromising big big big time on big big things.....they must be coz the pool of men is no good.....it cant be better for them then it is for us......as many of my male mates say women in the pakistani culture ( in london ) OVERACHIEVE!.....this is why....
 
Login to find out (January 16, 2006 at 3:57pm)
I agree with Morals!
 
Login to find out (December 24, 2005 at 10:02pm)
i agree 100 % with Mme. Eveningsnow. She's one of d most smartest gals I know!! hands down!! :)
 
Login to find out (November 27, 2005 at 4:17am)
you don't know when someone is right, you may never know....
 
Login to find out (November 26, 2005 at 6:55pm)
When you meet the right someone, the lost you experienced previously doesn't matter. You learn to appreciate them as a part of the path that leads you to the right man. You learn to forgive... forget... and appreciate that every downs that you will have in the future have an upside to it sooner or later.
 
Login to find out (November 25, 2005 at 3:34pm)
All i know is that since i have matured ....and met more and more bad unhopefulls I have become a realist ...cynic some say...but id rather be cynical then loved up and thinking that "love" will make up for all the other things u can end up compromising on ( a life/yr mates/yr family/yr career/sanity etc etc)

Lets face it love is an illusion, it clouds yr perception of the real situation....steay real girls.....i blame bollywood for all this sht.....
 
Login to find out (November 14, 2005 at 6:14pm)
Stajani is the only one here with her head screwed on right! lol This ' I just know cause I can feel it' is such BS. You kids have been so brainwashed by all the stupidity of popular culture...of course they always know right away and things work out in 2 or 4 hrs lol cause it's a stupid movie and it has to have a happy ending.
Just look at the reality of all these actors lives!? I mean come on they are so superficial and fake its pathetic... ohh wait so are desis!?

You girls meet some idiot guy you think is 'soo hot' maybe you actually talked to him for like 5 min when he asked you for directions or the time..and next thing you know you are already dreaming of having his babies and know all their names too.

About a week later you already found the new man of your dreams or the guy turns out to be another !@+_#)ing jerk! surprise! surprise!

Do you ever learn? Of course not...' oooo look there's another hottie!'

The right person is the one who actually cares about you ..not by words but through actions even when you've given them every reason not to. That's something that takes alot of time ..to get to truely know someone. How many times have you thought so and so was your best friend ever cause you hit it off right away only to find out otherwise later!? Same deal here.
 
Login to find out (July 20, 2005 at 10:16am)
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i took a stab at it earlier....on friendster..
 
Login to find out (July 19, 2005 at 7:58am)
the one that you look at all their faults and say to yourself: hmmm i could live with that for eternity and not want to kill him!!! haahaa
 
Login to find out (July 18, 2005 at 8:56pm)
I think it's different for different people. It kinda depends on where you are in life, and how much experience you have with relationships. Sometimes that person grows on you over time and it hits you that "this is the right one for me" and sometimes you spend a few minutes and something insides tells you that it's right...
 
Login to find out (July 18, 2005 at 11:06am)
Also, i think personally, people have to be true to themselves...you have to use your head first before your heart...thats just being practical. We are not living in a dream world that you just sit there and pretend that life is like a Hindi film...all that stuff is just a fantasy...I think love is not just about being in love but, but being with someone you can deal with or can deal with you and understand where you are coming from and you understand them...those things develop in time. I have some great friends men and women, who understand me and actually deal with me and put up with me and I do the same...thats love...being in love, not sure...I was in love once and it felt great. I am sure that will happen again but not sure when...
 
Login to find out (July 18, 2005 at 11:03am)
Personally, I think its a total b.s if someone says, you will just know when someone is right for you...thats so not true. Finding the "right" person takes a lot of time and patience and going through experiences together to come to that conclusion. I was just having this conversation with someone and he kept saying, you will just know...Here is the thing, I had a boyfriend in college who was just right, at least I thought he was and he was great blah blah blah and unfortunately, we broke up because it wasnt working out. So at that time, i felt, oh he is so great and he is the one for me....but since we have broken up, you think, now that I am thinking that he was the one or he was right for me? People want love to be this fairytale but honestly, that doesnt work. Relationships and finding the person is hard work..its not easy. We all wish it was but everything in life needs to be worked at. So I personally dont believe in this concept, when someone is right, you will just know. It sounds like a broken record that you hear in Indian movies all the time....
 
Login to find out (July 18, 2005 at 9:48am)
My definition of someone being "right" is when he/she is more important than yourself. It's when yuo are able to place that person and everything about them a few steps above yourself. When their happiness comes first :) That is the true meaning of genuine love... and that's wen the two come to realize that they are a "good fit" for eachother. ~ m
 
Login to find out (June 17, 2005 at 1:46pm)
since everyone out there agrees in "just knowing"..heres another thought...many people become confused when they fall in love and believe they are with the right person, which may not necessarily be the right person for them. Do you think just because you love someone he or she is the one for you???
 
Login to find out (June 17, 2005 at 10:04am)
Or turn to evil ways.