I was introduced to a guy Joe through Jack that I met on Naseeb. So Joe emailed me and we chatted online for an hour and next thing we did was talk on the phone. Our conversation lasted for 6 hours and it just felt great to be able to connect to someone like that. Well Joe is also Aga Khani like me and most of us in the community know each other. His family is from the same area as my father?s family in Pakistan and I know his aunts who live in the same area as my parents down in Florida. So when we were talking, it was surprising how our families know each other. We also talked about what kind of music and food we like and it seemed like we had different taste, but for me all that is secondary. We also talked about how he goes to the mosque regularly and I don?t go as often as I would like to, which would change after I settle down. We also talked about what kind of future partner we want to see ourselves with. He mentioned a few times how great it is that we have connected with each other and were able to talk for a real long time on the phone. I also did mention to him that I want my parents to know that I met Joe and how my family knows them. Mind you, my parents are pretty open minded people and would be happy for me that I made a friend. They wouldn?t think more than that. So I did explain that to Joe and he seemed to be ok with it. Later in our conversation, we brought up our past relationships and he didn?t really go in details of it. I also asked him, if he is looking to get married or looking for a mate and he said, ?yes and that is why I am talking to you.? I told him to be honest with me, no harm in that and I wouldn?t judge him for it. So he told me that he was married once and the marriage only lasted for 2 years and that he was devastated. His divorced was finalized this past December. He did bring up the differences him and his ex wife had. Then he asked me if I would be okay with a guy being divorced and I said, I have no problem with that. Things happen and that?s life. Anyways, he kept saying how nice I sound and he really likes my voice. So then the next morning when he woke up, he called me. He called to say hello and see how I am doing and what my plans were for the day. I mentioned to him that I told my parents about him and that they know his family and stuff. So he was pretty ok with that. Then he mentioned to me again that he is really glad that we hit it off. So after all that, I really thought something good was going to come out of this, until I got a letter from him an hour later saying:

It was really nice talking to you last night. I think you're a very nice person. In the spirit of being upfront and honest, after reflecting on our conversation, I see us as just being friends. We do have differences in lifestyle and taste. Also, I need to focus on business school and job search, and I think I need more time to get over my past relationship. I hope you understand. Good luck with your nursing degree.

After getting that email, I was totally thrown off. I just didn?t understand what happened or where I went wrong. I called him to talk to him about it and he didn?t pick up his phone. I even left him a message and never got a phone call back from him. So I talked to Jack my friend on Naseeb about it and he said that Joe had called him in the afternoon to tell him that things went well and that he enjoyed talking to me.

Anyways, now the issue is what am I suppose to think after reading that email? Is it me, or is it him? I really want some answers. I really thought we hit it off and it was really fun talking to him.

Any ideas what I should do?