BintQ - I get where you are coming from but at the same time I think you are selling yourself short...why is your mind set on marriage? (i am not attacking you, I am asking a serious question)..usually, when a person sets their mind to do something, it is because they will derive some benifit from its completion.
You are saying what you want to do but you are not saying why.

So here is just another piece of advice:

Everything that you want is everything that EVERY other woman wants. you are no different then the rest of the female population on this planet.

So logical reasoning should allow you to deduct that since SO many women don't get that, statistically speaking, you probably should not bet the farm.

If this is your end all objective in life, statistically speaking (again), you will likely end up dissapointed. On that note, Plan B is a good idea. Plan B is called 'Operation BintQ' and it entails you becoming succesful in life because you can't count on anyone elses actions but your own...

I hope that you end up with all that you aspire for, but it is important to recognize that if you focus your energy on only one end goal, in the event that it does not pan out, you will be left with nothing... Consider this a win win situation...make your OWN life and keep your eyes peeled for that perfect man - both of you will be better off in the long run.

Maybe you are just young and you have envisioned a romantic fairytale in your mind...(I mean this as your wisened elder sister - no offense)...life does not pan out the way it does in the movies...

Good luck though!

The right time to marry is different for each person and unique to each situation. Maturity levels and life experience are varying factors; some people are ready for marriage at 18, and some are never prepared for it.

aaaww..thats totally understandable. and i already understoof ure take on it..but it was someone else who made that comment. but im sticking to everyone has their own circumstances. as long as u dont get married really young bcuz ure desperate and u want to leave ure family..then im totally against that. if its for other reasons...and its an Ok age..then i dont care

aaaww salamtik 7abeebty jinan. and kissme sweet..glad u can relate to me. ;) and ..there are guys that are older then 19 who fit my descriptions. (and i found him too..heheh) but neways..ure right candy berry..everyone IS for themselves. b4 i go..just one question..what do u guys mean by.."live my life"

AWWWWW feel better HJ!! :)

Everyone is for themselves. If some of you gals feel that marrige is the key to happiness and it will complete you emotionally and spritually then start looking for it. However, I would advise you gals not to marry for the wrong reasons. Make sure you know the guy well and be sure that there is a compatibility factor there.
I'm on the same level asMPG. I'm in no rush for marrige. I want to live my life and accomplish my dreams. If I happen to run into the right one then I'll get engaged.
For me it's more about finding the right guy. I dont ever want to settle! I rather die alone then do that.
Another thing I want to state is that marrige is not in our hands it happens at different times for everyone.

I feel the EXACT same way as Bintqalandia.. Except I'm 23.. But I felt the same way at 19 so I can totally relate.

I feel the EXACT same way as Bintqalandia.. Except I'm 23.. But I felt the same way at 19 so I can totally relate.

Bintqalandia I know you're prob sick of hearign my opinion, but just know, that if a guy who is 25+ and wants to marry you, a 19 y/o, I'd be wary.......he prob isnt that fun cool guy who will think of you as anything but a baby-maker.....

Most older guys who want 19's are they type that went and had their fun and want to mold a clean slate....

I hope I'm wrong though! LOL

Gosh I sound like Debbie Downer! LOL jk

HEHEHEH Candy_berry thats why I have my hands in a fist just in case if his hand slips i can throw down!! GRRRR!!

mmm..asmaan hunny...thnx for esponse. interesting thoughts. i agree with what u said..and its totally understandable. but i just wish u guys can open me up and see exactly what i want. im in no way desperate..bcuz if i was desperate..id be married already. its just..i have my mind set on sumthing..and thats what i want. its not like..yaay..a guy asked for me..not i can finally make my dream come true and get married. no way. im a more conservative girl. im independant..but im in a way conservative girl. im not the stiletto type. i have my own style and have my own fun..but im more arab than american. there are guys out there who dont see a wife as a 'child popper-outer' and that his personality is hers. as long as hes home..she has no say. no. there are fun cool guys..that want what i want. true marriage comes with many responsibilities..but with 'my kinda guy' it wont be as bad bcuz hell share them with me. the way i look at it ..if i get married to that guy..im not losing anything. why does Allah say that marriage is completing our faith? im single...and i dont go clubbing...i only do debka clubs..sometimes..and i dont have a bunch of guy friends that i hang out with on the weekends..and i dont wear slutty clothes in the streets. so what do i have to lose? if i get married i dont have to be depressed cuz my husband wants me to dump my guy friends or to cover up my body...bcuz i dont do that stuff neways. and about ure fat girlfriends..hehe. im sorry for them. bcuz a married lady can go to the gym with her married friends and do sports. thats my type of marriage. whats wrong if u go to the gym with ure husband? id like that. and out of love for myself and my husband..ill do what i need to maintain my beautiful body. i dont have to sit home and eat all day.

what u said about culture is also true..but 7amdilla my family is not the type that goes with culture..whether its wrong or right. they try as much as possible to follow islam. and thats the way that i want to be.

MPG, LOL! I can understand about being a germ phobe.
It's funny , I'm not big on hand shakes either but when a hot guy wants to hold my hand...... I'm like "yeah baby"!
It's nice when a guy puts his his arm around you too, however sometimes their hands seem to slip in other places if you know what I mean. :P

Aamer you're so mature!! NOT!!

LOL

No MPG, scientist are closer to understanding and curing your flatulence problem! And I did save more money by switching to GEICO!
MPG- MOST PAAD GIRL!

I wrote that twice in the hopes you had twice as much good news! LOL

What is it aamer?? Did you save a bunch of money by switching to Geico? LOL

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LOL!

Ya right!! I'm smarter than to walk behind ur gassy (_|_)

Don't get married.
And if you don't want to hold my hand, you can walk 4 steps behind me!