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Login to find out (July 27, 2005 at 4:43pm)

I agree with sweethun. Assisted introductions are fine and even the marriage is fine if the individuals getting married are happy. But what our parents need to realise is that a marriage not working doesnt mean disgrace for the family. Divorce is a halal process and ours is the only major religion that validates it.

Login to find out (July 26, 2005 at 10:53pm)

The problem that I have with arrange marriages is the families getting involved. If you meet someone but then as you get to know them you may not like them...you just don't feel it. Families have a hard time understanding and they really want you to work things out with this person. I find there is too much pressure from the families to like the person and then get married.

Login to find out (July 26, 2005 at 12:26am)

sometimes i feel this same way, then i go watch some indian movie, then i get confused again. LOL P:

im serious *:

Login to find out (July 25, 2005 at 11:28pm)

i know what ya mean... or your fam is into him soo much and then he says no..and u lose face infront of your fam

Login to find out (July 25, 2005 at 11:26pm)

thats so true...i am also scared of getting hurt in the process..what if i talk to the guy and start liking him and then his family introduce him to another girl...

Login to find out (July 25, 2005 at 11:18pm)

me too...bc if either one of u gets rejected... itd be soo sad and hurtful right? so when my parents made that decision... i felt horrible.. bc i didnt want him thinking it was me being superficial.. when i never even got to talk to him..etc

Login to find out (July 25, 2005 at 11:13pm)

i just feel awkward knowing the other person knows the purpose of the meeting...it makes me uncomfortable....

Login to find out (July 25, 2005 at 7:18pm)

The best term I've heard for it is "Assisted Introduction".

Login to find out (July 25, 2005 at 5:00pm)

exactly... accelerated courtship haha.. but ur right i always say its like a blind date... but with insurance!

Login to find out (July 25, 2005 at 3:19pm)

I'm all about the arranged meeting, the marriage part takes a bit more time, it isn't like in our parents days where you said yes blindly, the cultures are so different now, When ppl ask me about A.M. and weather I would do it I explained to them its just like a blind date and the courtship is accelerated..if you think about it an average wedding takes about 1 year to plan and in that time you are getting to know the person, In the end I believe if its the right person u know it and feel it in every bone in your body so if with in days u say yes what's the big deal??

Login to find out (July 25, 2005 at 3:38am)

I don't mean blind arrangement. I mean im ok with my parents recommending ppl to me that thtey already approve of...

Login to find out (July 25, 2005 at 2:02am)

Frankly, as much as I appreciate a rational approach to love and marriage, I find these statements hard to believe. I don't believe that anyone can be happy in such a situation, but more to the point, how likely is it that we'll ever know how arranged couples really feel?

Login to find out (July 24, 2005 at 7:26pm)

you guys are sooooo right! like my last "meeting".. im sitting at some friend of the family's house (neutral place) infront of his mom, sisters, and neices and nephews like i never TALKED to the guy.... never even saw him and then we left... and im supposed to decide based on that????

Then the next day my mom calls me and says we decided we're not going any farther with this rishta... and im like thanks for asking how i feel... and i felt horrrribleeeeeee bc what was the basis for rejection? I would feel horrible if i ever was rejected and to be soo superficial like that... it pissed me off..

Login to find out (July 24, 2005 at 6:30pm)

my problem with arranged marriage is the way they make you meet the other person....its so awkward and uncomfortable....also i hate the whole sending pic thing...and how can you talk to somebody you just met...i dont know about others but i am very shy and its hard for me...

Login to find out (July 24, 2005 at 6:06pm)

my problem with arranged marriage is the pressure from everyone involved to make a decision. i cannot make a decision that affects the rest of my life in 2 days. but thats just me.

Login to find out (July 24, 2005 at 4:31pm)

exactly justalarki..

Login to find out (July 24, 2005 at 12:00am)

yeah so like instead of fishing in open waters... its like going to a pet-store for a fish...

Login to find out (July 23, 2005 at 10:33pm)

i agree with u farah..i doont have a prob with arranged marriages because its not like it used the be..the only difference is that the parents bring u the guy..u still talk to each other, see each other, see whether there is that chemistry or not, get to know one another till u feel that there is substance..no one can force anything upon u...u

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