Have you ever been swept off your feet by a man that you just met, only to learn weeks or months later that he wasn?t as interested in being with you as you were led to believe?

Some men view picking up women as a sort of game.
(Sad, but true.) They talk and brag about women with each other and describe the way they meet and attract women.

Others have pick-up lines, routines, gags, tricks, and attitudes they use in order to assume a persona they believe will be more attractive to women. Maybe you?ve overheard some men talking this way. And maybe you?ve even heard men you know or men you?ve dated talk this way.

If you?re friends with any ?Players,? or if you?ve ever had
the unfortunate experience of trying to date a hopeless Player, then you know what I?m talking about.

There are three different types of Players?

1. The ?Ego Driven? Players.

These are the guys who want or need attention from
multiple women. The attention feeds their egos and makes them feel better about themselves. They aren?t necessarily bad guys, but they?re shameless flirts who usually don?t know any better than to live their lives seeking approval and validation from more and more women.

They often connect deeply with women right off the bat and because women feed on this connection, women will tend to share more of their private thoughts, feelings, etc.

2. The ?Social Players?.
These are the guys who make a career out of learning
how to pick up women. It becomes their favorite evening past-time.

You?ll find them out partying all the time, always going
somewhere, and always having a woman to call and never spending a weekend evening at home. They tend to congregate with other Players who are out to meet new women.

3. The ?Physical? Players.
Finally, there are the ?Physical? Players. These guys are
seeking something purely physical from a woman and don?t have much else on their mind.

They?re often the more sensual and artistic types who charm women with their body language and their ability to make a woman comfortable with intimate contact soon after they meet.

Anyways, a few years ago I noticed something
FASCINATING about the guys that women think of as
?Players.? Ever since I?ve been old enough to go out to the places where men and women meet (restaurants, museums, parties, etc.), I?ve seen men who are good looking, attractive, entertaining, powerful, etc. attract women regardless of their intentions.

These guys represent a certain dilemma for women
because of the ATTRACTION women feel for them and what I call the guys? actual ?RELATIONSHIP POTENTIAL.?

What I?m getting at is that the qualities that attract
women to ?Players? are often the same qualities that make them bad ?boyfriend material.? It?s often these men who aren?t caring, generous, patient, polite, considerate, etc. that women end up feeling attracted to and share chemistry with. Have you ever felt a strong connection with a dominant, powerful, and unavailable man?

What often makes these men intriguing, interesting, and
attractive has NOTHING to do with whether they?d make a good mate or partner. In fact, these men are often the exact wrong types to be looking for a more meaningful relationship with.

But what?s worse is that the men who are actually the
ones ready and waiting for a relationship with a woman in their lives aren?t often as skilled or experienced at creating a connection with a woman, so women often don?t go for them.

Here?s the inside dirt on players. Men who are into picking up women do so because the challenge validates their intense need to feel important, powerful, and attractive. They are NOT looking to settle down, don?t care about the woman they?re with, and don?t want a relationship with any woman no matter how cool or beautiful she might be. The excitement of the search for women, the challenge of picking up new women,
and the instant gratification these men get is all they?re after.

Don?t ever think that a player?s mentality has anything to
do with who you are or with how you look. You won?t EVER be able to change or tame these types of guys because it?s all about them. For players, they only want women in their lives to fulfill their physical desires and to validate their ego. They can?t even consider the fulfillment they could get from a relationship because it isn?t part of their personal values.

But some women try to become ?The Fixer? and tell
themselves that a man?s a player because he just hasn?t found that special girl yet. While it may be true in some cases, these women mistakenly believe they can be the miracle worker to make him see the beauty of a relationship and how much better it is. ?Fixers? don?t see a man for what he is. Fixers only consider the situation with their own personal set of values to make judgments about what is the ?right? thing to do in a
given situation.

In addition, women make some common mistakes when
dealing with ?Players.? These types of men often use sarcasm, humor, and other techniques to put a woman on the defensive. They want to turn the tables and make themselves the object of desire to pursue so that the woman will qualify herself to him. Remember that techniques are a simply way of distracting you from evaluating the man on a rational basis.

Players can be irresistibly attractive because of the
confidence and status they convey. Remember that players only focus on the surface and things that are only skin deep. The surface of things is their greatest concern.

Stay away if you?re looking for anything serious or meaningful.