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Residency


Lately I have noticed quite a few girls specifically mentioning that guys who email them be either permanent residents or US citizens, else they wont reply (some have retracted these statements ). What gives? What kind of discrimination is this? Does being a citizen imply a superior being or a better mate? I know there are some guys out there intending to marry just for the sake of permanent residency, but not all guys are like that.
 

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Login to find out (June 21, 2005 at 11:13am)
I agree Zztopp that one's status should not be the reason for accepting or rejecting someone into your life, or for your judging their value, merit, or qualities as a human being. There are various other ways to get a green card, but far too often, people look for the easy way. I do understand why people are cautious, and I think they should be, but I agree it's unfair to reject or accept anyone on this basis alone.
 
Login to find out (June 21, 2005 at 10:33am)
Irfani - you are right, but once again you cant generalise too much. As I said, it depends from person to person - there are various other ways to get a green card (H-1 B employment etc) or through tenure-track positions or phd/researchers category which many of the phds I know have opted for. You cant just reject a person based on the fact that "he or she is from outside-US and thus devious minded". Its the same way that not all abcds are "way out there" and "ill mannered" or "mistreat their parents".
 
Login to find out (June 21, 2005 at 8:36am)
Zz- yes some GREAT talents came to the US. The question on hand is regarding marrying people overseas and bringing them over in marriage. There are of course genuine exceptions, but one can be wary of it. I personally know one guy, brought his wife over. The day after her green card, he came home and found she had moved out. Later found out, she remarried to her boyfriend from Pak, got him into the country. There are many other stories I have heard both sexes were victims of green card marriage fraud
 
Login to find out (June 21, 2005 at 5:31am)
Zz you don't have to born in a country to gain its citzeanship....unfortunately most desi's in the east think the west is the place to be and will go to any lengths to get here....even if it means marrying someone in order to do that. I know enough overseas desis who'd be willing to get married purely to come to the west.
 
Login to find out (June 21, 2005 at 1:04am)
i am a US citizen unfortunately someone wants ma passport please have it . :)
 
Login to find out (June 21, 2005 at 12:26am)
Why not judge the person on his/her own merit(s), rather than judge them by their place of birth? Some of the more distinguished entrepreneurs in Silicon Valley and Boston were immigrants from Pak and India.
 
Login to find out (June 21, 2005 at 12:02am)
That's precisely what I was referring to Irfani. It's unfortunate but it happens.
 
Login to find out (June 20, 2005 at 10:31pm)
I have heard of too many stories both from men and women who married someone from back East, who after gaining residency, divorced them as it was their plan just to get out of the East for better opps. Women have done this as well. So it is because of what I believe legitimate mistrust
 
Login to find out (June 20, 2005 at 9:50pm)
I would think people would want to filter on that basis because they've heard or seen enough situations where people from their countries of origin are looking only and ONLY for a quick step up the ladder of immigration status, i.e. looking for people who are citizens or permanent residents because it will help them with their immigration status.
 
Login to find out (June 20, 2005 at 9:17pm)
Guys usually dont "filter" women based on citizenship status; why is it mostly the women who do this?
 
Login to find out (June 20, 2005 at 9:05pm)
I see your point and it's the sign of the times. For chatting purposes, it shouldn't really matter, cause all u are doing is chatting. but if someone is actually seriously looking for a committment, then, you can filter people based on personal preferences i.e. citizenship status. i don't think it's a matter of discrimation or superior being, rather, a personal preference. U have the option to rejecting or accepting an invite simply because it's your right, no big deal..