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anyhow, i've seen guys who are so immature for their 30 and guys with wisdom tooth at 24, meaning mature/smart...it's obvious that the upbringing and environment plays a crucial role in our development, and there is no stopping young ones to learn the realities of life far better than the adults...
personally i would want someone about the same age as myself as I could relate to her more...but if i am to find someone couple of years older/younger whom i could connect with at the same level, then i wouldn't care.
Well everyone gives example of the Holy Prophet PBUH.........but he Was the Holy Prophet and I imagine
wise and mature and blessed with many super duper qualities so you cant really compare to the average 20 -30 yr old guy of nowadays. No offence to you Plato, or
other young folk on this website.
Secondly I myself feel a younger guy getting interested or rushing things may itself represent sign of immaturity and as the older person feel its my responsibility to prevent that person from doing something foolish, which he may regret as he ages. Thirdly, its distasteful to think of yourself as "cradle-snatcher" and may prevents me from reciprocating interest. Fourthly if the guy is Not stable in career Plus good looking , I ask myself some serious questions, does the person have enough redeeming qualities for it to not bother me what people will say..............ofcourse it might be different if it was as easy for women to think/feign themselves in love, in which case probably all these factors may not seem important. But I think older women tend to make such decisions using mind not just heart.
And I do agree....that there is lot more than age just being a number from practical point of view......one may become cynical, rigid in habits and views, mistrusting or acquire other negative qualities along with (hopefully) many positives with age and experience .
And then ofcourse impact of age is greater on women as the biological clock clicks louder for them :)
sigh
first off -
Oasis is wrong, age is more than a number.
while relationships are based on things more important than the year of birth, time spent bumbling around this world gives people perspectives and experiences taht influence the way they see the world, experience teaches judgement, and sets down habits that may be hard to break, that will influence relationships.
age itself isn't the problem, but alot of things come with age. Wisdom and wealth are two of the better ones, but habits, cynicism, and patterns of behavior are others.
Ehteshamfarooq - there is no such thing as not judging. when deciding what u want to eat, you are judging the food - and judging isnt always bad. recognizing what is bad/good and judging an action are what help us to be better people. so i wouldnt be so quick to put the halo on and claim u dont judge.
its a Bad sign. Lack of judgment...............makes psychiatrists think of Dementia or Psychosis.
Or EF were you trying to help by proving my point?
:D
And atleast for myself .....many times in life total strangers who later became friends, sometimes belonging to different culture, religion and nation have helped and given good advice if they share the environment, the moment or the issue with you much better than family. And if naseeb is only place I come across moslems, single working women or like minded
individuals why not have a discussion here? And that doesnt imply I am " dependent on total strangers",
my ultimate decisions are made by my grey matter,
ofcourse with Supreme guidance.
for not-so-worthy reasons.
I think a few years difference - i.e. say, less than ten or around five, in either direction is generally not very significant.