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Unhappy at online cheating :(


My family are very strict. I get a lot of marriage pressure from them. Things are worse coz we don't live in a Muslim neighborhood.

Against all odds I met a man 7 months ago on Naseeb. He seemed like a nice man and soon I got attached.

3 months later he started talking about getting engaged and moving things on. I thought this was the right way of doing things. He invited me over to meet his family. Everything went ok. After the meeting he didn't call. I called him for an explanation a week later. He said he needed more time and was not ready for marriage now and needed a year+ to be comfortable. We still talk but not so much. I now saw him online on another marriage website. I talked to him about it and he has gone quiet.

Why did he get me to meet his family if he wasn't sure ? What should I do. -:- -:-
 

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Login to find out (January 31, 2006 at 6:03pm)
It will feel awful for a while and then you'll realize that you're still breathing, which is God's way of saying move on because He's got something better waiting for you in the future. May Allah (SWT) ease your heart.
 
Login to find out (January 31, 2006 at 4:53pm)
Reema10, you cant force someone to marry you. time to move on because it seems like he certainly has.

The more time you spend on him, thats time taken away from searching for the perfect some one.
 
Login to find out (January 31, 2006 at 4:48pm)
irfani how do i get out of this.its overwhelming me.if you tink he is jerk u should see the jrks my parents have got ready, not many which makes it harder.u cant help bt compare.talked about how we were gonna bring up the kids,how his influence would change my family strict views,he became a big part of me and now he not only cheats he denies me an explanation apology,even an outburst.kaduna2003 i know i should be able to do better but i havnt seen better and my dad is ill/time pressure its hard.
 
Login to find out (January 31, 2006 at 4:25pm)
You are not stupid at all. Don't let an @ss shatter your self-esteem.

If you let him, someone you barely know, who barely knows you, effect your self-image, then this loser makes you a loser. Don't get sucked into that trap.
 
Login to find out (January 31, 2006 at 4:21pm)
guys no closure.no call.i feel humilated and stupid.everyone says things happen for a reason,what is the reason.why call someone home to yr family and then carry on online.im still left with questions and no answers.i cannot get ovr the anger stage.
 
Login to find out (January 30, 2006 at 3:11pm)
It will take a bit of time to heal, but this phone call should've helped you make up your mind.
 
Login to find out (January 30, 2006 at 1:02pm)
choosa i did call him.i needed to i think.i called on his cellphone privatly.caught him kinda off guard.he said his mate was sharing his membership on the site and my attitude stnked (when i mailed him about where i stand)he was so rude choosa.kinda cut me of and then said he will call me when he wasnt with his buddy. i said i needed an expanation. this explanation seems like bul to me. now im hurting all over.i didnt expect such nastiness.i made it worse.i then mailed him and said he had no right to speak tome in such a way.nothing - again.i only met his folks, they hadnt met mine as mine wouldnt meet in this way without trouble for me.how can i let it go.feelings dont go off when u tell them too.
 
Login to find out (January 30, 2006 at 4:58am)
In this case, they seem to go hand in hand :p
 
Login to find out (January 30, 2006 at 4:06am)
choosa, you forgot the klashnikov...another funky russian mafia thing :P
 
Login to find out (January 30, 2006 at 3:57am)
yaar i wish you'd told me about them this time last year.....i would have luved to have had them at my wedding :P
 
Login to find out (January 30, 2006 at 3:55am)
They arent very easy to find, Im sure if you set up a black rose busienss you'd make a tidy profit ;)
 
Login to find out (January 30, 2006 at 3:53am)
CHOOSA yaar i for sure luv the idea of black roses....thats jus wicked :P
 
Login to find out (January 30, 2006 at 3:50am)
FON, Roses come in all colours, including a pristine blue - some say the blue is a hybrid however if that was true Im sure it would be available everywhere. I'm included to believe that the blue ones I saw in Taiwan were in fact sprayed...

So the black roses are also 'sprayed' roses, though to be honest, sprayed or otherwise, they are fantastic calling cards, probably the only funky thing the Russian mafia have ever done P:
 
Login to find out (January 30, 2006 at 1:24am)
Oh lord have mercy...this is what happened. He met you and your family. Didn't like you or your family. The End. There is nothing you can do because.....well..its done.
 
Login to find out (January 29, 2006 at 9:16am)
so what exactly is a black rose...i feel a cheeky smile coming on....and can u really get em and send anonymously?!
 
Login to find out (January 29, 2006 at 5:04am)
ooooooh CHOOSA i didnt know 'black' roses existed..... );

oi TOPPS who's telling her to stalk him..its simpley ONE telephone call for HER to give him a peice of HER mind...thats all.
 
Login to find out (January 29, 2006 at 4:46am)
why are u ppl encoraging her to stalk the dude? *:

or maybe stalking isnt a big deal in ole' Blighty
 
Login to find out (January 29, 2006 at 4:32am)
And as you know his address, why not spice things up a bit by sending him black roses (Russian mafia calling card );)
 
Login to find out (January 29, 2006 at 4:24am)
i agree with CHOOSA...ring the idiot and have it out with him....bloody paindoo ain't got the b*lls to tell you whats up...ring the b*stard (pardon my french :P) and give him a piece of ur mind and send the git packing.

Trust me u'll feel a whole lot more better for it and it'll be closure for you.
 
Login to find out (January 29, 2006 at 2:26am)
Whatever you do, dont forget the slap.