Village Journals
Resonate your identity with Naseeb journals. Express your opinions, share your thoughts, post your writings and connect with like minded people through the power of expression.
Resonate your identity with Naseeb journals. Express your opinions, share your thoughts, post your writings and connect with like minded people through the power of expression.
Warning Signs of an Abuser
Warning Signs of an Abusive Relationship
Want to avoid an abusive relationship? Watch out for these signals!
If you're involved with someone, and you notice that many of these points apply, there is a high probability your partner will become abusive. Each example on its own may not mean he or she is an abuser. The signs may appear gradually over time once the "honeymoon phase" has faded, and he/she is no longer on "best behaviour."
1. Pushy and judgmental - knows what's best for every one (especially you) - they are always right, never admits they are wrong
2. Wants to fast-track the relationship
3. Moves addresses a lot, has a lot of debts, blames others
4. Has whole areas or times in their life they won't talk about
5. Hits or puts down children or is cruel to pets
6. Poor relationship with family members
7. Takes no responsibility for their part in previous failed relationships - blames their ex-partner for all their problems.
8. Doesn't give you space - phones a lot, treats your body as if it's their property
9. Heavily into car image, drives aggressively, ignores needs of passengers
10. Likes loud music on their terms - intolerant of other types of music
11. Uses pornography, massage parlours, escort services and prostitutes often
contraception
12. Dates people much younger.
13. Has a double standard - wants to change you but not themself
14. Is jealous of your opposite sex friends and former partners - acts hurt, upset or moody if you give attention to someone else.
15. Expects to take the lead in all aspects of the relationship.
16. Ridicules people who are different - calls men different from him 'queers' or 'gay.' Equates feminism with being anti-male, or lesbian. Considers strong or opinionated women 'bitches' or 'butch dykes.'
17. Gets off on fights, sees them as proof of manhood or "might makes right."
18. Won't cook or do housework - expects parents or someone else - maybe you - to assume responsibility for "taking care" of basic daily chores.
19. Non-verbal, very intense, staring
20. Has a stand-over manner or extremely rigid, domineering posture.
Want to avoid an abusive relationship? Watch out for these signals!
If you're involved with someone, and you notice that many of these points apply, there is a high probability your partner will become abusive. Each example on its own may not mean he or she is an abuser. The signs may appear gradually over time once the "honeymoon phase" has faded, and he/she is no longer on "best behaviour."
1. Pushy and judgmental - knows what's best for every one (especially you) - they are always right, never admits they are wrong
2. Wants to fast-track the relationship
3. Moves addresses a lot, has a lot of debts, blames others
4. Has whole areas or times in their life they won't talk about
5. Hits or puts down children or is cruel to pets
6. Poor relationship with family members
7. Takes no responsibility for their part in previous failed relationships - blames their ex-partner for all their problems.
8. Doesn't give you space - phones a lot, treats your body as if it's their property
9. Heavily into car image, drives aggressively, ignores needs of passengers
10. Likes loud music on their terms - intolerant of other types of music
11. Uses pornography, massage parlours, escort services and prostitutes often
contraception
12. Dates people much younger.
13. Has a double standard - wants to change you but not themself
14. Is jealous of your opposite sex friends and former partners - acts hurt, upset or moody if you give attention to someone else.
15. Expects to take the lead in all aspects of the relationship.
16. Ridicules people who are different - calls men different from him 'queers' or 'gay.' Equates feminism with being anti-male, or lesbian. Considers strong or opinionated women 'bitches' or 'butch dykes.'
17. Gets off on fights, sees them as proof of manhood or "might makes right."
18. Won't cook or do housework - expects parents or someone else - maybe you - to assume responsibility for "taking care" of basic daily chores.
19. Non-verbal, very intense, staring
20. Has a stand-over manner or extremely rigid, domineering posture.
Comments on this journal
and yes wheres the list from
& where does contraception come into it? (point 11..) without contraception ?
I've found that some of the most horrible people can sometimes even be the nicest, most polite, most caring etc... I'd be suspicious of anyone who seemed too good to be true as well. It's just not natural for someone to never say anything wrong, always be on thier best behavior, always be calm and rational and never get angry or unreasonable.