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when can u accept a lie?
most people hate it when someone just lie on their face.... however, could it be an excuse for lying?
when will u wiling to accept a lie?
when will u wiling to accept a lie?
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in general. it's hard for a woman to forget when her emotion is being hurt. i understand that. however life need to keep going.
i can't forget a favor done to me, but i do have short memory when it comes to arguing/fight between me and someone. so whoever will marry me is lucky :) , because after 1-2 weeks i will not be able to remember the fight unless ur remind me of it. :)
what i will do?
i will show her that i am upset about what happend and explain to her my reasons again of why i don't want her to talk to that person from the beginning.
i will listen to her arguing/reasons of why she did this. and will compare it with my reasons. if i realized that my reasons are more stronger than her then she must respect my word when i asked to stay away from that person or i will be mad.
and if her reasons were more stronger than mine, then i will adjust a solution to the problem so it can satisfy both of us.
Ok, but what would you do?
I can somewhat see your point more in the second example, obviously if being honest in this situation would cause the wife more harm then you shouldn't, but at the same time, I feel he can get around being blatantly honest without actually resorting to llying. I just put myself in that situation, and if I asked my husband directly and he lied, I really wouldnt like it. No matter what the reason for the lie was.
but let me give u an example of a lie that may release stress...
say there is a woman her dad just died recently. she was in very bad condition. so for her husband to calm her down he had to lie to her by telling her .."ur dad came to me in my dream and he was laughing and smiling to me... he seems happy there. "
or if a doctor told me ur wife have a deadly disease but don't tell ur wife as negative reaction could lead to the worse. should i tell her the truth or should I lie about it?
and I agree about the embarrassing situation- If it's something personal that doesn't concern me, I probably would not get upset over a lie.
I can't think of a situation where I personally would accept lying between two grown adults, though. But I did hear a guy talking on TV one time about how Islamically, there are three instances when it is OK to lie. One is when you are trying to mend ties between two people, but I can't remember the other two for absolute sure, so I'm not going to guess. Anyone know what I'm talking about?