lol.......go girl...............lol

I didn't mean to sound like I was generalizing, yet reading back I know thats how I came across, firstly, when I say VIRGINAL REFS, I don't mean the term literally, I mean that guys and girls that I know have this perception that even our parents tend to give is that if you marry back home than the person your marrying is better than some girl (ex.) in Canada, U.S or wherever. I cguess it was my way to be mean. But the trut is I've live in Pakistan for 2 yrs, and The stuff that I saw go on in my school was like stepping into the twilight zone. I was surprised not by the fact that these people do it(fool around) undercover, but they did it to this extent at all. Before I went their parents were akways like, pakistan this and that. HEll at times I think their worst than us. (It depends on how you Decipher that). I know many guys who'd marry a girl from here but the set back is if she's not a virgin they go elsewhere, what I don't understand is why they do it....ughhhhhh, but Maria84 you do make a valid point....

I totally agree with the fact that most men in our society like having their cake, eating it too, and when they're finished with their cake, and have reduced it to crumbs, they head off to the motherland for a permanent supply of ladoo! But i must say, not all men are like this, i know a number of guys who would much rather marry a girl who they can relate to, and who has grown-up with a similar upbringing.
Also, I think it?s interesting that you refer to the girls in Pakistan as "Virginal REFS". First-off, I dont think we should hate on them, I mean, they're just doing what is a normal, traditional custom in their society. But have you been to Pakistan lately?! I dont mean to sound cynical, but there are girls there that are FAR from virginal and pure.
Let's face it, making the decision to have sex before marriage is no longer one that girls and guys in North America are making, it is a similar situation in Pakistan, it?s just that it?s nowhere near as accepted and talked about.
I believe that staying "virginal" no longer has anything to do with your geographical location, but more so, who you are, and what your own personal beliefs may be.
I can personally say, that the decision I made, to not have sex before i get married is something I KNOW i want to do, it wasnt made for me, and i havent been brainwashed into believing it. I have nothing against people who do not feel the same way, if thats what they KNOW they want to do, then more power to them. I have just found that, at least in the female community, this decision is a divisor, and i find that stupid, we're all on the same team, lets "make love, not war!" (Pun intended.)