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Decision about your marriage

By Adeelmuz

This is a sensitive issue but I really want to discuss. These days i am feeling a very alarming shift in our societies and the shift is the men are not willing to marry soon(they prefer to marry in earlier 30’s or mid 30’s) then i explore the whole scenarios i found some reason.

1) I cannot marry because i have my sisters to get married or it’s not my number.
2) I cannot marry because i feel i need to get some more education
3) I cannot marry because i have no job security, house, bank balance and car.
4) I cannot marry because i haven’t found my ideal soul mate yet.
5) I cannot marry because it needs a lot of money to get married (these days) and i am saving this money.
6) etc etc etc.

I respect all these reasons and they are acceptable but i think there is a certain age in which one should get married because it takes time to mature the relationships.

Once my professor said 'There are two major decisions in life rest are not that important one is your decision about your job and the other is about your marriage'

How important is the decision about your marriage. Looking forward for your fruitful thoughts...

Comments: 5 Raters: 0 April 18, 2012 at 4:58am

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jawedsidd (May 7, 2012 at 10:51am)

people should not be rushing themselves into marriage just because of getting older.World populations is already overpopulated.People should marry whenever they are ready & find the one they always desired.People should be focused on developing self control & qualities as a good person, good Values ,a good Character within themselves first........:)

sunshine1987 (April 25, 2012 at 10:11am)

It is pretty much the same for women. Some reject good rishtas for minor reasons; same goes for men.

Adeelmuz (April 20, 2012 at 1:51am)

If you are enjoying the basic necessities of life then the biggest happiness in this world is; 'TO BE LOVED'. Sharmin i was talking about a very ‘WIN WIN’ situation the concept of 'TO BE LOVED' (we are social animals and we always respond to what they get) but though I respect your thinking...

Adeelmuz (April 19, 2012 at 1:18am)

@Adibb life without a companion is like body without soul. In my opinion if a man start earning like he can feed himself and can rent a room then he should get married because you don’t know how much lucky a person can be for you and these days women are well educated they can help you in your livelihood. We take a lot of risks i our life when why we can't take this too in our life earlier.

@Sharmin_Ishaq there is another very inportant role 'if you are not able to find your ideal then become the ideal of someone other' what you say about this?

loveydovey786 (April 18, 2012 at 6:44am)

Adeelmuz, The reasons you have given are true, yet depends very much on every individual- lets say your a Pakistan born, married man, in his early thirties, and most probably got married after you gain enough financial security. However, the above doesn't convince the west. Guys these day wanna have all the fun until their forty, done all the hanky panky and when they feel they'd messed about plenty, then they think yeah I guess I shall marry now. last time i made a comment that guys don't know how to talk to girls, you didn't understand it because you haven't been in the same situation as us foreigners, guys in Pakistan somehow know who to talk to women, there are real gentlemen in Pakistan, with dung to speak to women, but here abroad they are absolutely ZERO. Guys in Pakistan know how to respect their parents, and women, although i have seen that in Pakistan there are several gents with a staring at women habit, yet when you look at those who come from decent families really know how to talk to women. There is a film (DDLJ) which gives a completely fake vision of how British borns boys are, the fact is the other way round, its the girls who spin the conversation. There are people who saw my pictures, liked it, and then were still bad on Msn, it was always me who used to come up with topics. I used to think why isn't such and such person coming up with a topic, to discuss. The reality with speaking and marrying is the same abroad, neither boys abroad know how to talk to girls, or want to marry so early, guys abroad get serious when the hit a forty. FACT IS A FACT LIKE IT OR NOT- says' loveydovey